What to do when you meet the love of your life at the wrong time
We all know how hard it is to find true love. True love, something every one of us is seeking for, knowingly or unknowingly. Since forever, we imagine how perfect our days will be when we find that companion.
So we keep on looking for that other half. At times, it’s frustrating and utterly disappointing but you know what’s heart breaking? Finding the “One”, yet not being able to be with them. It’s like seeing what life could be but can’t be like. It is that one thing you can’t have no matter what you do, you just can’t have it!
This is the worst thing that can happen to anybody. It’s a fight you fight against the world, against yourself, against the whole point of an unattainable entity that completes you and exists.
Meeting them for the first time is a memory that feels like an incident from yesterday. Everything they did seems ideal, like right out of a storybook but the only difference is, you never got to have your happily-ever-after.
Regardless of the reason, may it be the fact that they never realized your true value or that they were already with someone else, may it be that they live a thousand miles away from you or some God forsaken reason. YOU JUST CAN’T GET OVER IT! Have you ever seen a handicapped person who loved running but tragically lost their legs in an accident or someone who loved singing but lost their voice? Do you see how disabled they feel? Losing your love to any reason is like that, you feel disabled.
When people say, ‘move-on’, ‘there’s someone better out there for you!’, ‘Oh! Any guy/girl would die to be with you’. All you can think of is, “it’s easier said than done’, “I don’t want someone better, someone who is more of this or more of that’ or ‘I don’t want any girl, just her’. Nobody gets it really because in many people’s lives, they give up. They give up in the search of trying to find their true love. As I said before, it isn’t easy to seek for the One, it is actually so hard that you get tired of trying and seeking. Hence, settling, is the only option for them and that’s what they have led themselves to believe.
I don’t mean that everyone’s case is like that. A lot of people find their true love at an early point in life, you know,’ Highschool sweethearts’. But not everyone is that lucky and that’s alright! I didn’t find my true love till I was 25, not even a wee-bit-of true love but you know what, when I did, I knew this had to work out even if it meant for me to move from one corner of the world to another. I just had to, it wasn’t a decision I made in a jiffy. I went through my own fair bit of want-them-but-cant-have-them phase. I fought long trying to make myself understand that I couldn’t get that one person in life.
Continuously, I kept on telling myself how impossible it was to be with them leaving behind all that ever existed up until now in my life. To leave all the constants of my life for that one thing I wanted, was it all worth it? Here’s the thing, sometimes you’ve got to believe in that excessively over-used phrase they use in every movie, “Take the leap of faith!” What I am saying is, true love is never easy for anyone. Everyone faces challenges and we’ve got to look beyond that.
I can’t emphasise enough on the word ‘Faith’. We often lose hope too often and too soon. Maybe we are meant to feel that way because we won’t know the worth of having something till we have actually felt the agony of not having them. Know that what you are going through is a journey!
It may not promise that you will get that one person but have faith that you will find true love, eventually.
You might distract yourself momentarily by meeting great people on your way, who will be perfect for anyone but not for you! Many times, you will not be able to find the exact cause for these momentary relationship not working out for you. Always remember this feeling of dissatisfaction and discontentment. This feeling is just another push for you to try harder. Try that wee bit harder to sort that out, what is wrong between you two.
Once fighting for my own relationship, I can give you this much, nothing is ever impossible. What might seem impossible now will be attainable in the next few years, or maybe months but it will happen. It is just a matter of time and faith. So contrary to what people will ask you to do,
Don’t give up!
Believe it will happen!
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Have you found true love? How difficult was it and was everything worth it in the end? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!