You know of those little things that you don’t really speak of but know that having them in your life would be so magically perfect? Things that are often a bit childish or too fairytale-ish, a little out of the ordinary or just something that is not what others want, usually, from their partners.
We all have those little wishes that we feel the need to be fulfilled. As time goes on, these needs start frustrating us and the only thing we soon want is for them to be fulfilled, everything else just starts to fade away.
We all are made that way. Your partner too. Women are complicated, being a woman, I accept this fact and that we require a little more than what you think you need to give us. As simple as that, a little more than what you think is enough, a little more than what you see other men do for their girls. I don’t mean an effort, proposal-in-Paris, kind of big but a-rose-on-the-bedside-on-an-odd-and-not-so-special-day kind of little.
Maybe it is not even something more, but just something out of the usual, out of the ordinary.
Something that makes your partner feel special! Every woman wants to feel special and that’s what requires and needs you to constantly make her feel like you want her like you have wanted no one ever. I believe that is something we all should be doing for our partners regardless, they are men or women.
But talking about women specifically here are a few things I can tell you.
We might not want you to take us out to fancy dinners and get us expensive gifts. We just want you to be there when it is important, when you are needed. Big days or small, we take you as partners and that’s what we really, eventually, genuinely want your time.
So when we say you are not there, don’t go on thinking that we don’t appreciate our dates and all that you give us we just maybe want to see that smile of yours a little more often. Hold that hand a little longer.
We want you to say that you love us, spontaneously. Even when it isn’t needed. I know, everyone at some point thinks that their partner already knows that you love them, already knows that you care for them and there is really no need of saying it a millionth time. Well, there is and there always will be. Your words can do magic and you need to believe that. Be expressive, keep assuring us that you love us, that you want us. It gives us the same feeling every time you say it, like it used to when we first met.
If you call her the perfect one, then treat her like one. Show them they need no change in them and that’s how you see it. Value this person and try to do everything to keep them the way they are.
Make it a point that they know you wouldn’t want it any other way. Your affection and your efforts to really keep her the way she is and will tell this lady that you truly respect her worth. Most of us women are focusing on our flaws and are unconsciously lowering our self-esteem by comparing ourselves with the society’s idea of a perfect woman. Your efforts towards not changing them and to make them feel better about themselves will make them love you and appreciate you in ways you can’t imagine.
Women don’t always need you to be the hunky, manly guy you are. At times, they want you to sit with them, feel the pain they have gone through and not ask us to shrug it off or face it or ask us to stop crying. We know that we have long been the part of a perception that ‘we cry out of habit.’
Here is the thing, nobody really likes to cry, nobody, not even women. No one likes sore eyes and a head ready to explode, so don’t take it as our habitual drama, try and understand the reason behind it and respect it.