The 5 most common things couples fight about and ways to deal with it
Money is often a reflection of personal values around security, freedom, generosity and lifestyle. If you both differ on how to spend money, then without some frank discussion and negotiation, it can lead to catastrophic fights … and ones that only repeat themselves throughout the years.
If you find yourselves arguing about money, rather than focus on the dollar amounts and items that were purchased, sit down and talk about how you each feel about money and what having money and not having enough money means to you. Once you talk more generally, you’ll be better able to get past the triggers and negotiate strategies that work for both of you.
Yes, a good sex life with your partner would be nice. It helps the bond grow deeper and stronger. The longer couples are together, the greater their sex life will suffer. This is a common area couples argue about.
Work it out – Again, sit down and talk to each other. Communication is key. You should be open with your partner. Tell him/her what you like. Tell them what you do not like. Voice your opinion.
Who does the dishes, who vacuums the living room, who takes the dog out: Divvying up these domestic responsibilities can be a ruff and rocky road in any relationship. It’s also a very common point of contention with couples, and this is one place where a pup can sit squarely in the middle.
It’s not just about whether or not to have kids — it’s also about how to raise them once they’re born and how to maintain the marriage afterward. The Relationship Research Institute in Seattle has discovered that about two-thirds of couples “see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child.” Fights occur over issues like sleeplessness, changing diapers, changing roles, a changing social life, sex and (of course) money.
5. Extended family
When you enter into a relationship with your partner, you merge your world with theirs, which includes their significant others, besides you. This could be children from a previous relationship, and other family members they are close to, as well as their best friends. Couples can fight often if one or more of those extended others infringes too much on the quality time spent with each other alone as a couple. The friction can occur from personality clashes, but also it can happen just because a balance isn’t being met.