Love, lust: it’s easy to confuse the two, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Both emotions make you feel a kind of bliss that you’ve never experienced before – which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate – but make sure you know the difference between the two. Need a little help? Here’s a few clues to know how love is different from lust
# Frequent fireworks:
There’s a reason we keep talking about lust like fireworks; they’re so similar! A relationship based on lust is seldom stable, and there is usually a lot of drama and intense scenes involved; most of which end in… intercourse. Love, on the other hand, is quieter, and both parties go to great lengths to minimize drama.
# Whenever you’re in lust, you say what they need to hear:
You constantly try to please. When they ask that you question, you’re more more likely to reply with a new “safe” answer, community . might not fully express how you will feel. (You figure you’re going to get to that afterwards, right? )
#Whenever you’re in enjoy, you keep this real :
You don’t accept everything they’re saying and you also clearly state which. Having different vistas and opinions from a significant other doesn’t necessarily indicate you’re season match; it just ensures that SHOCKER: You’re each person. And that’s fine. Healthy debate is actually good and regular and helpful with seeing things from another perspective.
# When you’re in lust :
– You don’t feel comfortable talking to them about your problems: Talking about your problem can help ease stress and tension. But you prefer to talk about them with someone you trust. And let’s face it, you’re just not at that ride-or-die stage yet.
– When you’re in love, you’ll talk to them about, well, basically everything. You know you love someone when you can trust them with the most minor (and major!) issues you’re having, not matter how weird/trivial/embarrassing they are. You know that they’ll listen without judgement. That’s love.
# There’s no intimacy in the relationship, just sex:
There’s a huge difference between being intimate and being sexual between two people. If you find yourselves having wild sex with each other then going your seperate ways to your own apartments afterwards, or even sleeping in the same bed but not even touching each other, that’s not intimate at all. To be intimate you need to hold hands, kiss without having sex, cuddle with each other before or after sex, and just be with each other because that’s what both of you want to do. That’s generally what people do in a relationship.
# You’re not friends:
It’s all about sex for you two, and there’s no actual friendship at all between the two of you, and there never has been. Neither of you feel comfortable coming to each other with any of your problems, and you honestly don’t want to hang out with each other unless it involves having sex with each other.
#When you’re in lust, the future is unknown:
Yes, you’re enjoying every moment you have with them right now. You love their attention, the dates, and the feeling of pure bliss. But when you look at the long run, you have absolutely no idea what the next few months (or years!) will hold. It’s a little scary.
#When you’re in love, you welcome thoughts of the future:
Whether you marry or not is up to you both, but can you see yourself sitting side-by-side on matching rickety rocking chairs? Does the idea of that give you something to look forward to? Do you picture bad vacations, fights over trivial things, and (gasp!) babies and can’t imagine anyone else taking this journey with you? Then, you’re totally and utterly in love.