Habits can have a powerful impact in your relationship. The definition of a habit is: “a consistent and regular pattern of behavior”. You can either create positive habits or negative habits, and once you start practicing them, they will eventually become an act that is unconscious. If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are the 12 habits of happy couples.
1. Settle disputes peacefully
When you feel anger, avoid saying or yelling words you can’t take back, instead have a planned agreement that you each will back away.
2. Spend quality time Together
Make time for each other. With busy schedules we often forget to relax and enjoy others. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. Ignoring someone, often
hurts more than angry words! Carve out special time for just the two of you once a week.
3. Appreciate and Help each other Grow
Having an open appreciation for your significant other leads to a productive, fulfilling and peaceful union. Cheer for their victories. Celebrate their accomplishments, and encourage
their goals and ambitions! Challenge them to be the best they can be
4. Live with Integrity
Trust in each other and know you haven’t been used or taken advantage of, it creates inner peace and security. Lies fester, but the truth heals or prevents trouble. Live daily with
fairness, integrity and reliability.
5. Be Loyal and Devoted
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. Love is about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships,
remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
6. Love and Respect each Other as Individuals
Our first and last love is self-love. Don’t rely on your significant other, or anyone else, for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and
respect yourself, no one else will be able to either.
7. Lend Support during the Good Times and Bad
Be there through the good, bad, happy, and sad times too. Trust that you can count on each other, and be available not only when it’s convenient, but when it’s needed most
8. Understand: Every Relationship is Different
Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s, especially that random couple whose relationship seems perfect. Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements, and
love habits. Just focus on you two, and make your relationship the best it can be!
9. An Emphasis on Communication and Listening
No one is a mind-reader so your partner won’t be able to figure out how you’re feeling. Be specific and clear with yourself on what you want and make an effort to discover what
your partner’s needs are.
10. Turn Negatives into Positives
Problems in a relationship can be broken down into numbers. If you’re both honest with each other and within yourselves, logically look at the negatives and calmly list them. Work
together as a team to tackle each negative, one by one.
11. Work on Thoughtfulness Every Day
People who are in successful relationships nourish their partnerships regularly. They don’t set their life on cruise control. Ask yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner’s
life better?” Little bits of effort every day will accumulate over time and make a big difference.
12. Realistic Expectations
Real relationships aren’t what you see in the movies. They happen because each person values the other and are willing to make an investment of time into the partnership.
They understand, not all days are passionate and romantic.. rough spots will require good communication.